Things Look Worse Before They Look Better | Trusting God in the Mess
Today I’m sharing an everyday devotional about trusting God in the mess of our lives. I’ve learned over and over that things usually look worse before they look better–and trusting God in the mess is safe. Read along as I tell you a story from everyday life and weave a lesson about God’s grace and truth into it.
Last week I spent an afternoon sanding down the hardwood floors in our soon-to-be master bedroom. I almost didn’t want to start. Most of the floor was in pretty good shape. There were some places where leaky windows had left water damage, or years of foot traffic had worn away the finish completely, leaving bare, exposed wood.
It was a shame sand the nice places. The only thing that propelled me into action was having faith that, in the end, the finished product would look better. What looked “kind of okay” would be breathtaking.
This brings me around to a truth that I’ve learned after working on lots of old houses:
Things Nearly Always Look Worse Before They Look Better.
Pinterest is flooded with beautiful Before & After photos. I love looking at B&A pictures. They’re addictive to me, but often, these images leave out an important look into the middle.
There’s a difficult season in the middle of any project–where things look worse than when you started. Even if you know what you are doing is necessary and will be great when its done, it’s inevitable that things will look like a hotter mess as you start to improve than when you started.
I’ve had “middle moments” when I started to wonder if things were really that bad to begin with. Yes, kitchen cabinets that are intact would be nice. But when prepping dinner means using a dismantled dishwasher as your only counter space, and cleanup means hauling all the dirty dishes upstairs to a decrepit 1950’s apartment kitchen–it’s easy to start thinking things would be better if we’d never started this project.
I’m speaking from experience.
It’s not just home improvement projects that this holds true for. Think about reorganizing, unpacking, or sorting excess. The mess always gets bigger before it comes into a new, better state.
Israel’s Middle Moment | Trusting God in the Mess
Back to sanding the floor.
As I let the sander do its worst to a mostly-okay floor, my mind drifted off to Pentateuch chapters, still fresh in my mind from the 90 Day Bible Reading Challenge.
How many times did the Israelites rail against Moses, asking him why he’d led them out of Egypt to “die in the wilderness”? Why he’d brought them away from Egypt, where:
“We remember the fish which we used to eat free in Egypt, the cucumbers and the melons and the leeks and the onions and the garlic, but now our appetite is gone.”
(Num 11:5)
Maybe things were better how they were before.
Yes, they were slaves. Sure, they were belittled, treated less-than, and strictly limited on how they could worship the God they knew to be true. Of course, it wasn’t ideal. But in the heat of the desert, in the midst of that “middle moment” where they’d been didn’t look so bad.
As a modern reader, it’s easy for me to judge Israel. I mentally scold them for not trusting God in the mess. I easily shame them for having weak faith and faltering. Isn’t it obvious? God has something much bigger and better planned. Why don’t they just hush up and eat the manna? Cool your jets, God is doing something huge and wonderful for you–just give Him a hot second.
It’s easy to take that stance when we know the ending. And not just the ending of that journey, when they really do reach the land flowing with milk and honey. We understand that all the law and the prophets and the wandering lead to reconciliation to God for all people, through the sacrifice of Jesus–His perfect, holy son.
We’re blessed to have a more complete picture. Israel, however, was living the “middle moment.”
Fear in the Middle Moments
As I sanded the floor down I felt great empathy for these people. For them, Egypt was the only home they’d ever known. Slavery was the only lifestyle they’d ever lived. It might have even seemed “basically okay.” Walking away took guts.
Like taking a sander to a floor that was basically okay.
What if I take the finish off and the new stain looks crummy? How will I fix it if I just make it worse?
What if we left Egypt–and all we’ll ever know now is dry, dusty wilderness and wandering?
What if we threw away an unpleasant, but stable existence only to watch our children die out here?
How will we ever live with ourselves if there is no promised land and this whole journey has been wasted?
The floor looked more ragged and dingy while I sanded. The once clean room was covered in dust.
Things nearly always look worse before they look better.
Intentionally Take Heart in Your Middle Moments
Friends, let’s be encouraged by the generations before us. Maybe you are about to jump into something that will shake up your world. You know it needs to happen, but you’re nervous. Plaster this truth on the walls of your heart: Things may look worse before they look better. But God is the author of beauty and redeems even the biggest messes.
Maybe you are in a “middle moment.” Some corner of your life is in total disarray. You want to put things back, but it’s too late. You’ve walked out of Egypt. You’ve turned the sander on the floor. Keep moving forward. God will lead you out. Intentionally reminder yourself: Things look worse before they look better. God is bringing something good from this mess. (Get more encouragement from the Moving Forward in Hard Times series.)
Maybe you are lucky enough to have walked through the “middle moment” and come to the promised land. Hold on to the clarity you have. Do not praise your own strength or effort. Remember, what God brought you through. Continue to seek the ways He worked through that season, continue to praise Him. Write it out. Remember what He has done. Recall it often. Do not make the same mistake as the Israelites.
They stopped talking about it. They stopped teaching their children about that hard season in the wilderness. Eventually, it was a vague, distant tale. And again, a hard season crept upon them, another trial. Another “middle moment.”
No matter where you are, or what you are facing, remember that things may look worse before they look better. But, when we walk with God, we can trust that we are being led toward a finished product, a destination far better than where we started.
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Reading Old Testament Law | 7 Ways to Refresh Your Mindset & Free Study Guide
If you are reading through the Bible, plan to, or have read it–you know that reading Old Testament law can be tricky (or nap inducing). Today I’m excited to share a few ways you can refresh your mindset toward the law. (You can get a couple reading plans here, or read about my love for chronological reading and the 90 day reading challenge.)
Reading Old Testament law is hard. It can be hard to comprehend and appreciate. Even harder to understand how it ties into the New Testament, modern church and our faith walk as “post-resurrection” believers.
I get it. I’ve been there–trying to keep my eyes open while reading Old Testament law, or simply letting my eyes move over chapters describing the sacrifices expected at feasts. It can be really, really hard.
Along the way I learned a few things that changed my mindset about these sections of Scripture. These things changed me. Not only could I read them and stay awake, but I came to like them. If you aren’t as big of a geek as me, like may be going a bit far. But I believe we can all come to a place of understanding and appreciation.
Refreshing Your Mindset For the Law + Free Study Guide!
Today I’m sharing seven points that shifted my mind and altered my attitude toward the “drier” sections of the Old Testament. I’ve also turned these points into a FREE printable study guide. You can get it over in the resource library or at the bottom of this post.
A Fresh Take on Reading Old Testament Law
God Is Speaking
Years ago someone encouraged me while I was struggling through the laws and details of the Pentateuch. She said, “I think those books are really cool. I mean, most of the just a record of God Himself speaking.”
I’d never thought of that before. These sections of text are dense with God’s direct communication to His people. It’s reading God’s actual words, to actual people!
God is Equipping a New Nation
After leaving Egypt, Israel was to become a new nation of its own. This was a huge undertaking, but God did not expect them to take it on alone. He didn’t expect them to figure it out on their own or make it up as they went along or copy other nations. Instead, He painstakingly told them everything they needed to know about living as a nation of their own, God’s chosen people.
The Law Assures Us That God Will Provide a Framework to Live Holy Lives in Any Culture
An article from Zondervan’s Cultural Backgrounds Study Bible explains this concept well (paraphrasing and emphasis mine):
The laws in the Bible reflect in large measure the way ancient societies were structured. God’s revelation speaks into that context. The laws in the Bible do not seek to restructure society, but to affect how people live and think in the societal structure they have...The laws of the Bible seek to transform how people live in whatever sort of society they find themselves. No societal structure is flawless; it is always subject to the nature of the people who are part of it…
Consequently, when we look at the laws of the Bible, we are not looking for the picture of a perfect society nor should we think that God is endorsing such a society. We will find that the shape of Israelite society is often very much like those of her neighbors, but we should be attentive to the ways that the Bible goes further to protect the rights and dignity of those who might be vulnerable. In this way the Bible can pioneer new moral ground even while being situated in the familiar social structures of the ancient world…
While Biblical laws describe a society very much rooted in the ancient world, God calls his people to higher standards. The areas of commonality do not suggest that the Bible has borrowed from the legal literature of the ancient world; only that God addressed their society as it was, but sought to show them a pathway to holy living within that framework.
“Ancient Laws, Scripture and Modern Issues” Zondervan’s Cultural Backgrounds Study Bible
How comforting that God will provide a way for us to live holy lives within the framework of any culture or societal structure!
The Law Reveals God’s Heart
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the number of specifics laid out in the Law. But the law reveals God’s unchanging heart. Here are a few things the law reveals about God’s character:
- While other Near Eastern cultures believed that gods relied on humans to serve them, it’s clear the God of Israel does not need the provision of humans. His desire is a relationship with man, not servants.
- God cares for the marginalized and lowly.
- God does not expect perfection. Rather, His desire is our heart, trust and devotion. The law draws a clear line between those with appropriate and inappropriate heart posture. Our heart, not our actions or wealth have always been more important to God.
- God is faithful, even when people are not faithful to Him.
- The law reveals God’s desire to show the world what it looks like to be in relationship with Him.
Jesus Valued the Law
References to the law are found throughout Scripture. This alone makes a general understanding of Biblical law relevant to us. Even more, Jesus valued the law and understood it. In Matthew 5:17-18 he says,
Do not think that I’ve come to abolish the Law or the prophets; I have not come to abolish them, but to fulfill them.
For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.
Matthew 5:17-18
There are Three Types of Law
A friend who is well versed in OT law recently told me that understanding the different categories of law helped her appreciate the laws overall. There are three types of laws laid out in Scripture: Ceremonial, Civil and Moral Laws.
Ceremonial laws aren’t observed anymore because the temple is no longer standing and many were prophetic and fulfilled in Jesus’ coming and atonement for our sins.
Civil laws were specific to life in Israel and in that time and culture.
Moral laws can still be applied today and are seen in teachings/letters sent to the early Church in the New Testament.
Atonement is Messy and Personal
Old Testament law clearly shows us that the atonement we desperately need to bridge the gap between us and God is messy. Atonement is personal, messy and serious. The law points to our need for a more lasting solution. The gap between us and God is wide and we are need a redeemer to help us: Jesus.
Reading Old Testament Law
I hope one or two of these will help refresh your mindset about reading Old Testament Law. If you are joining in on the 90 Day Bible Reading Challenge, you may have already passed through the thickest part of books of the law–but there is still plenty left. Remember, the law is quoted over and over throughout Scripture. Having a basic understanding (original readers would have had a deep understanding) will help you better understand the rest of the Bible.
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Minot Monday | Kid’s Music Classes in Minot at Children’s Music Academy
Happy Minot Monday! Minot Monday is made possible through a partnership with BeLOCAL Minot. Today we’re talking about kid’s music classes in Minot at Children’s Music Academy. For more league and activity ideas check out BeLOCAL’s listings here.
It’s my absolute pleasure to bring businesses, activities, organizations and Minot fun of all kinds to your attention. You know I love life here, but there’s definitely a learning curve if you’re new in town–or a transplant. Sometimes you can live here for a few years and still not know everything our town has to offer. Today, I’m thrilled to introduce you to a wonderful resource in Minot: The Children’s Music Academy.
I sat down with CMA owner, Terri Aldrich to learn about the Academy. Then, Gideon and I were able to sit in on a class (even though he’s still a little too young). The Children’s Music Academy is exactly what it sounds like: musical training for children. But there are a few things that set CMA apart from basic piano lessons. If you are looking for a way to begin exposing your little to music, maybe you’ll discover that this is a great fit for you and your littles.
Children’s Music Academy: The Basics
- CMA is a national franchise with a curriculum proven affective for teaching children the fundamentals of music.
- Classes take place in a group setting, focused on learning together, socializing and having fun.
- There are four courses offered plus a “Master’s Course” for graduates. Courses are age based and run from 3.5 years old through 4th grade. For course descriptions see here.
- CMA’s curriculum is multi-dimensional and teaches keyboard, singing, theory, ear training, composition, ensemble playing, guitar and recorder.
- CMA believes in and supports private lessons, but also understands these may be best for older students with a longer attention span and an understanding of the basics.
- Research has proven that “music affects virtually every aspect of development …” from math and reading to emotional expression. For more on the benefits of music for children, see here.
This is Something to do With Your Child
This might be my favorite part of CMA. Unlike other activities that require a parent to wait after the child is dropped off, classes here are interactive for both child and parent. This is something you can do with your child. The parent learns alongside the child and can help them in their training.
Now, don’t get me wrong–I appreciate activities (see other leagues and activities in town here) that let the parent watch while the child learns. (Sometimes we need an hour to talk to other parents or drink a cup of coffee.) But CMA is unique in that as a parent you’ll understand everything your child is learning. This is an activity you’ll bond through and look forward to doing together.
Classes Are Based on Age, Not Skill Level
Another thing that makes Children’s Music Academy so attractive is that classes are based on age, not skill level. Each course begins with the basics–even if a child has previously taken lessons, or is more advanced. This ensures that no one is left behind, or feels left out. And, it means that an older child with no experience will never be in the uncomfortable situation of sitting in a class with much younger kids.
Age based classes tailor curriculum to teach kids in a way they are able to comprehend. In the Pre Junior class this means lots of short activities (because their attention span isn’t very long) and activities that don’t require reading.
Students Learn Theory That Prepares Them For A Future in Music
From the very beginning–even in the youngest groups, CMA starts teaching music fundamentals and theory. In the Pre Junior class that meant stories that illustrated the difference between low notes and high notes, drumming simple rhythms that mimicked croaking frogs (“frogs” was the theme of the week) and reading a rhythm depicted in pictures. Big frogs are a long croak, little frogs are a two beat rib-bit.
I really like that the focus isn’t solely on learning the piano or another single instrument. Rather they learn fundamentals that will transfer as a student grows and chooses which instrument they’d like to play.
Kid’s Music Classes in Minot
We had a great time at our Pre Junior class. Gideon played the piano and drum. He socialized with other kids. We listened to stories and made a quick craft and played games. Going in, I wasn’t so sure how CMA would actually teach the fundamentals of music to children so young. However, after class I saw that by teaching at a level they understand, children can begin to grasp musical foundations. It’s really cool.
If you’re looking for kid’s music classes in Minot, I encourage you to check it out. Children’s Music Academy is a great resource and we are lucky to have it in our community. You can contact CMA for more information or specific class dates, times and registration.
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Lesser Known Playgrounds in Minot | Minot Monday
Minot Monday is made possible through a partnership with BeLOCAL Minot. BeLOCAL helps those new to town live and thrive like a local. Today, I’m exploring the lesser known playgrounds in Minot. These are perfect places to play while social distancing may still be a concern.
Happy Minot Monday, everyone! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there’s nothing quite like a North Dakota summer. This is the perfect time to get out and enjoy the amazing weather and soak up all the fresh air you can handle. We all know it comes to an end sooner or later. But let’s not talk about that right now. There’ll be time to discuss sub-zero temperatures again in the fall.
Life in Minot is an exercise of intentionality. There’s a lot going on and a lot to do, but you’ve gotta be intentional about finding in and taking part. And, about finding people who can fill you in on the stuff you might be missing if you’re a transplant to Practically Canada.
That’s where I come in.
When I first moved to Minot I heard about the “big two” parks. Oak Park and Roosevelt Park. If you are new-ish, chances are you are familiar with the “big two.” (Side note, that’s a name I made up for them.)
Sometimes, especially since social distancing has become a concern, it’s nice to sneak off to a place less crowded and lesser known. I’ve had the internal struggle myself. Do I let Gideon play on the playground? Are there too many kids here? Should we just stay home and play in our weed patch yard?
Today I’m sharing six fun playgrounds in Minot to avoid big crowds. This is a great list to save and explore–especially if you are stuck in a rut of hanging at the same park day after day. I love our parks department, but their website is a little lacking when it comes to good photos of our playgrounds. Hopefully this will help you find a fun place to play!
Polaris Park
The playground at Polaris Park is fun for all ages, but especially older kiddos who can climb confidently. I love that this playground has “balance” features (things that wiggle under foot) to challenge and grow their skills. In addition to the playground, there’s a good disc gold course and a picnic shelter nearby.
Riverside Park
Riverside Park is tucked away in a northwest neighborhood. It’s small and very quiet. It’s playground is simple, but very nice. I’ve never (ever) seen a crowd here. Besides the playground, there are tennis and basketball courts and a picnic shelter.
South Hill Complex
The South Hill Complex is an awesome hidden gem when it comes to playgrounds. This playground is way fun and unique in that its got a sand base (instead of mulch.) The playground here is big and appropriate for a wide age range. All the playgrounds are fun for bigger kids, but this one definitely gets my stamp of approval as a fun place for preschoolers to play too.
In addition to the main playground, the complex has a great system of paved paths–perfect for bikes (or learning to bike) or roller blades. And it’s got another, smaller, hidden playground!
And if you want to extend your walk, you can meander into the grounds of Rosehill Cemetery. I know recommending a stroll through the cemetery sounds weird, but it’s a thing. It’s got great paths and folks use it as a walking and biking trail all the time.
Bread of Life Community Playground
Okay, friends. This Minot playground isn’t even on the parks department list. So you know it’s a well kept secret. And you’re welcome.
At Bread of Life Lutheran Church there’s a really nice community playground. It’s never crowded. It’s clean and right next to a nice subdivision. Parking is easy and close in the church lot and there’s a nice picnic shelter nearby.
Radio City Park
Because Radio City also boasts a splash pad, this playground can get a bit full. But on cooler days or when we aren’t at the height of splash pad season, this is a nice, quiet playground to visit. There are several play structures and this is another one that is fun for preschoolers as well as older kids.
In addition to the playground, there’s a picnic shelter (a bit far from the playground though) and a splash pad.
Hammond Park
Hammond Park’s is most known for its tennis courts, but it’s also got a nice playground tucked away. Again, this one is surrounded by neighborhoods and tends to be very quiet. It’s main playground has tall structures, good for climbing and bigger kids.
Dale Brown Courts
Also at Hammond Park, but a bit of a walk away are the Dale Brown Basketball Courts. Near the courts is a second playground. This one is geared toward younger children. I’d actually say of all our playgrounds, this is the best one for Pre-K play. Everything is sized well for little climbers and sliders.
Enjoy the Playgrounds in Minot
I hope you’ll get out and enjoy these lesser used playgrounds in Minot. Another great thing about living here is that you are always within a couple minutes of a great play space for the littles. Get intentional about finding fun this summer. Have a great Minot Monday!
Who Else Gets Confused By Spiritual Gifts? | The Truth About God Given Gifts
Once upon a time I was drawn like a moth to a flame when it came to spiritual gift assessments. I wanted so badly to understand my God given gifts and what they meant for my life. It took years of learning and letting go of some selfish ambition to understand that God offers our souls big freedom when we let go of the list and grab onto His purpose.
Answering the Question: What Do You Do?
I spent a lot of time during my early Christian walk stressing about spiritual gifts. I’d eagerly take the spiritual gift tests. Anxiously read the descriptions in the inventory–hoping I’d fit in somewhere.
But often the test came back inconclusive. I’d measure equally for multiple gifts and nothing really stood out.
This mirrored real life where I had lots of interests and talent, but no one clear direction. Much of my life (both adolescent and adult) was spent searching for what I should b doing. What was my calling? What career should I pursue? Why didn’t any of my God given gifts bring in an income? How would I ever have a respectable answer to my least favorite question, “What do you do?”
I’m a mixed bag of tricks. Comfortable in the throws of a remodel. Speak contractor lingo fluently. Happy in the church kitchen. Loves dinner parties and formal holiday gatherings. Fearless of public speaking. Chronically curious. Fast learner. Skill gatherer. It’s all very mixed up and incongruous. Where did that leave me? Where would I ever fit? What gift label applied to me?
The time spent grappling to understand the gifts God had given me felt like wandering around in the dark. Why did it seem like everyone else had a path that fit them? Instead of walking in freedom, I a slave to comparison. Comparing my walk to others’. Comparing my (nonexistent) income to others’. I was sure that God had given me gifts, but I didn’t see them.
If I was good at so many things, why didn’t any of it amount to success? Why didn’t I have a “real job?” Or a “real” paycheck?
Maybe one or two of you can relate.
Clarity on God Given Gifts
Years later, I was honest with God about this struggle to find worth in career and my confusion about my God given gifts. He provided clarity to me. This week when reading from Exodus for the 90 Day Bible Reading Challenge intersected with a study of Ephesians I remembered my years of turmoil over God given gifts.
Spiritual Gifts in Ephesians
In Ephesians Paul lists out several “spiritual gifts” given to the Church. (This is one of the passages often quoted during my spiritual gift test exercises.)
And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers…
Ephesians 4:11
I looked at the list. Options of gifts that I might have. (Also in 1 Cor 12, Rom 12.) Wondering which ones I was given. Thinking if only I could figure out my gifts, I’d be more fit to serve, more capable of finding a “real job,” more content in my own life.
The Purpose of Our God Given Gifts
But the freeing truth God showed me isn’t in the list. Let’s look at the complete sentence from Ephesians 4. (Emphasis mine.)
And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ.
Ephesians 4:11-13
What my selfish heart overlooked during those early years of searching for purpose was right there all along. It’s not about the list. It’s about the purpose.
The purpose of our God given gifts is equipping other believers for their service. Building (both encouraging and expanding) the Church. And–Our gifts are to be employed until we all attain unity of faith, knowledge of Jesus and the “body of Christ” grows into a mature man.
We are free to use our gifts in any way they manifest, as long as serve this purpose. God doesn’t require our gifts to gain fame, define our career or even pay the bills. Changing our mindset makes us free to live and serve joyfully–instead of feeling like a failure because our gifts don’t fit or aren’t in the career aptitude test.
Gifts in Exodus
Exodus lists lots of other specific gifts given to craftsmen while they are building the tabernacle. Perfumers, those who work with gold, weavers, builders…The jobs listed are extensive, but Scripture is clear that all of these gifts are given from God. (Emphasis mine.)
Moses continued, “So Bezalel and Oholiab will do the work as the Lord has commanded. They will do this with the help of every other craftsman to whom the Lord has given the necessary skills and talents. They will know how to do all the work for constructing the holy place.”
Moses called Bezalel and Oholiab and every other craftsman to whom the Lord had given these skills and who was willing to come and do the work.
Exodus 36:1-2
Hope in Our Spiritual and God Given Gifts
I was hoping to be put in a box, given a label–all so I could serve my own interests. I wanted to put my gifts to use for myself. But really–God’s purpose for our gifts (whatever they may be) is to serve others and build His body up.
I thought I needed to find a gift that fit from a list on a test. But really–all our interests, natural inclinations and abilities are from God, to be used for His glory.
Don’t be frustrated because you don’t do it all or wish you were like someone else. The unique makeup of YOU is evidence that you were designed intentionally by an intelligent God.
Don’t be fooled by the lie that God is hiding your purpose. Making His will difficult to find and easy to overlook. I thought to “find God’s will for me,” meant knowing my gifts and exactly how to employ them in a career.
Gifts can look many different ways. A gift can manifest in the ability to preach before a congregation or weave beautiful tapestries. No matter what the gift is, the purpose is more important than the gift itself.
Friends, you are gifted. But we are called to turn those gifts outward. Remove the stress and burden of figuring out how to use your gifts to further yourself–instead, employ them the way God intended. To equip others for work and build the church until we attain unity of faith and the body of Christ grows into a mature man. When you reshape your mindset, you will find that your heart has room to breathe and you feel more free to use your giftings to their fullest.
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Minot Monday | Splash Pads in Minot
Minot Monday is made possible through a partnership with BeLOCAL Minot. Today I’m sharing about the two splash pads in Minot. For more on our parks see BeLOCAL’s listings here or my recommendations for great walks in Minot, here.
Summer means splash pad season. And yes, it does get warm enough here to enjoy a splash pad. It’s not always winter, you know. Anyway. There are two great splash pads in Minot. We enjoy them both–and they are both always nice and clean. Today, for Minot Monday I’ll be giving you a little comparison between the two. As a mom this kind of information is helpful to me–and I hope it’s helpful to you too.
Oak Park Splash Pad
Most people know about the Oak Park Splash Pad. There’s a good reason for that. It’s pretty awesome. This splash pad features some big water features. It’s got the classic “mushroom” with water flowing over the top. Some big fountains that squirt up from the ground. And overall, it’s very wet and fun.
Because the water features are mostly large, this is a great splash pad for older kids. (But my 2 year old also enjoys it!) Since it’s well known and centrally located, this splash pad can get pretty busy, and is consistently busy through the summer. However, even on crowded days, I have found that there is enough space, that kids are kind, and parents are watchful. Overall, we’ve never had a negative experience.
As a parent, don’t expect to be able to help a little one through the fountains without getting pretty soaked yourself!
Perks of going to Oak Park.
- Lots of water
- A picnic shelter close by
- Lots of benches for parents
- A large playground (several playgrounds) nearby
- Walking and biking trails in the park for additional fun
- Restrooms attached to the splash pad
Radio City Splash Pad
Radio City Park is somewhat hidden away in a neighborhood on the south side of town. Of the two splash pads in Minot, Radio City is tamer and geared toward smaller children or kids who may be timid around water. The water features are smaller and release less water.
This has been our favorite splash pad since we moved back to Minot last summer. Like I said, the features are smaller and gentler, perfect for a toddler splasher. Also, it’s generally less crowded and the water features are a little more spread out, so it feels more spacious. There aren’t as many benches nearby, but there is plenty of space for parents to sit on the sidelines and a picnic shelter nearby.
As a parent, I enjoy Radio City’s splash pad because I can “play” in the fountains without getting totally soaked. They are easy to walk around and through while still remaining pretty dry.
Pro Tip: A friend recently told me this is her favorite pre-bedtime activity for her preschooler because it typically clears out around 5pm!
Perks of going to Radio City
- Tamer water features, perfect for younger kids
- Typically less crowded
- Playgrounds nearby–one especially good for young kids
- Few trees around the splash pad, so it’s very sunny
- Picnic shelter near by
- Restroom attached to the splash pad
Enjoy the Splash Pads in Minot
Check out both splash pads in Minot and pick your favorite. No matter which one you like best, the splash pads here are a great way to cool off and let littles run off their summer energy. For more on Minot Parks, visit the parks website or check out these recommendations from BeLCOAL. Happy Monday, everyone!
Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People? | The Ancient Question in Job
Today I’m confessing that I dislike reading the book of Job because it makes me very uncomfortable. It brings the ancient question: Why do bad things happen to good people? to the forefront of our minds. And calls for reflection and correction in how we view suffering and walk with those in pain.
This week I read the book of Job. I have a really hard time with Job. Such a hard time that while on the phone with my mom, I told her I’d rather be reading Leviticus.
Now that’s really saying something.
Job isn’t a book I’d just pick up and read for fun. It was on the reading schedule as part of the 90 Day Chronological Bible Reading Challenge that kicked off on Monday. If it wasn’t on the schedule, I wouldn’t have read it right now.
Job Makes Me Uncomfortable
Why is Job so hard for me to stomach?
Honestly, it makes me uncomfortable.
The book starts with scenes that leave me with questions. I can’t quite wrap my mind around the set up leading to Job’s troubles. From chapter one of this book I’m already uncomfortable. Wrestling with questions and circumstances I don’t fully understand.
Then, all kinds of calamity strikes Job. Which brings up more questions. Better stated: The Question.
Why do bad things happen to good people?
How can such terrible things come onto someone so honorable? Why isn’t the world just according to the moral code I understand? Where is retribution for those that do evil? Why don’t all kind people prosper?
Why do bad things happen to good people?
The majority of the book of Job records dialogue between Job and his friends as they debate this issue. Job holds fast to his innocence. He strains to hold onto his faith and what he knows to be true about God.
Word Vomit and Meaning Well
His friends seem to mean well. I’m sure the circumstances facing their friend left them uncomfortable and unsure how to help. But they can’t keep their mouths closed or their speculations to themselves. They offer advice on how to regain God’s favor. They imply that Job must have done something to deserve this. Surely there is some wrong that he hasn’t noticed causing this tragedy.
As I read, I spend half the time rolling my eyes, wishing they would just be quiet and listen to their grieving friend. Take time to fully understand what he’s feeling and facing. I spend the other half of the time cringing with conviction because I can relate to the friends’ reaction on a deep level.
How often, when confronted with a friend’s deep hurt, do I offer advice and suggestions about things I have never walked through? How often, when faced with the discomfort of suffering do I end up spewing “word vomit?” Looking the pain of another human in the face has a way of bringing out the “fixer” in me. Maybe it has the same affect on you. I want things to be better. I want to fix the problem. To ease the pain, to comfort, to make the trauma go away.
Instead of trying to fix, speculating, and problem-solving–often a better reaction is listening, asking gentle questions, and turning to Truth to understand God’s character. Easy said, but boy, it’s hard.
Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People? It’s an Ancient Question.
The suffering brings out questions. Questions that make us squirm for closure. Closure that may never come on this side of eternity.
We’re reading the Bible chronologically for this challenge. In our plan, Job fits in around Genesis 11. This means that the book of Job is very ancient indeed. Likewise the question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” And the human desire to equate noble deeds with prosperity and wicked deeds with retribution are extremely ancient.
While studying Job I learned that many texts exist from civilizations in the ancient Near East (like Mesopotamia and Egypt) exploring this concept. In literary pieces similar to Job, bad things come into the life of a good person. Then the text wrestles with big questions. What’s the cause? Why has he lost favor with the gods? What can be done to restore his prosperity?
Humans have long wanted to place God inside our understanding of moral law. We want Him to be just according to our standards. But He is too big and too far-seeing to fit there. His justice is pure, but it doesn’t always look like we want it to. His mercy is so vast we can’t comprehend it.
Friends, our human desire to understand why bad things happen without cause, is ancient and inborn. It’s a question that has been on lips for millennia. It’s been making us squirm, prodding us to speak too quickly, listen too shallowly, and come to the wrong conclusions about God’s character for longer than we can imagine.
Job Causes Me To Examine My Reaction and Heart Toward Suffering
This, is at the heart of why I have such a hard time with Job. The book causes me to stare into the eyes of a question that has very little closure. A question I am humanly programmed to ponder. A question I desperately want a simple answer for.
Humanity will (I will) continue to wonder, ponder and speculate. Why do bad things happen to good people?
The answer may never be more exact than, “We live in a fallen world. God will set it all right again one day.” It takes faith, trust and a relationship with God to take that answer and continue to move forward. To trust that He sees farther than me (see Job 38:22–23) and is just.
The book also forces me to look into a mirror and examine my reaction to other’s suffering. Do I speak Truth rooted in God’s word, on a foundation of love? Do I speak quickly because the pain and the “unanswerable question” leave me uncomfortable? Am I quietly listening and allowing grief to happen? Am I walking beside my brothers and sisters in a way that is “…worthy of the calling to which I was called…” (Eph 4:1-3)
What We DO Know
Job teaches us that hardship does not directly correlate with wrongdoing. It teaches us that God is patient with our mourning, grief and questions. He does not turn a blind eye to our pain. He does not depend on our righteous acts to appease Him into offering blessings. (See Matt 7:11)
While we might not have the answer, Scripture gives us plenty of insight about walking with each other. The instructions give us action steps (but none of those steps happen to be “speak really quickly about things you haven’t walked through…”) Here are just a few examples.
- Pursue things that lead to peace and building up each other. Rom 14:19
- Be forgiving. Col 3:13
- Bear with one another. Diligently seek unity. Eph 4:2-3
- Abhor evil. Rom 12:9
- Don’t be too proud to walk with someone you perceive as “lower than you.” Rom 12:16
- Do not be defeated by evil, but overcome evil with good. Rom 12:21
- Use words to build one another up. Eph 4:29
- Hold each other accountable. Help the weak. Be patient with all. 1 Thess 5:14
- Admit wrongdoing to each other, pray for one another. Jas 5:16
Moving Forward From Job
I know many of us are wrestling with tough questions right now (and not only because we’ve read through Job.) We may not have the closure we desire, but we do serve a God who is bigger than our understanding. We do serve a God who allows us to be stewards of his grace, to show His ways to the world, to tell others that there is hope beyond unanswerable questions and the senseless grief of this world. He is a God who allows us to be part of His action.
As we face a hurting world, let’s remember to listen a little better. Not “reason away” bad circumstances. Let’s be proactive with the gifts God has given each one of us to create unity in the Body, care for the weak, and expand the Kingdom of Christ on earth.
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God’s Boundaries For Us | Toeing the Line
I’m so glad you’re here. Today I’m sharing an “everyday devotional.” An anecdote from life, seen through a Christ’s-Kingdom lens. Grab your coffee (or beverage of choice) and join me as we explore God’s boundaries for us…as inspired by a defiant toddler attending church service.
Returning to “Regular” Church
Recently our church reopened for in-person services. There have been lots of changes and precautions implemented.
Of all the changes that our church has put in place, our family is most affected by the temporary closure of children’s church. Gideon, who used to play happily with his friends during the service is now sitting in church with us. Mind you–I’m using the term “sitting” very loosely.
Our church family has extended lots of grace to families with little ones. No one is cranky or exasperated with restless kids. We’re all just happy to be together again.
Toddler Boundaries
But here’s the thing.
After about 30 minutes Gideon becomes restless. His little body just can’t be still for the entire length of the service. I understand.
Our family sits in chairs against the back wall of the sanctuary. There is a large gap between our seats and the last pew. We do this strategically so Gideon can have space to move around when he gets wiggly.
It’s a big area for a little guy. But it’s still not enough. He is old enough to understand simple boundaries we set for him. In the sanctuary, I tell him he can go anywhere on the blue carpet (basically, anywhere in the sanctuary.) No climbing the stairs, no crossing the threshold to the lobby. Lots of his favorite people are in the room with us. They’d love a walk by visit from Gideon.
I know he understands. But it’s still not enough.
Toeing the Line
Even though he has plenty of space to walk around, he heads directly for the threshold of the sanctuary, where a black strip separates blue carpet from gray. He literally puts his toes on the line, squats down and looks back at me with a gleam in his eye. (Please tell me someone else can relate to this.)
He knows the boundary, but he can’t resist pushing it. I call him back. Or carry him back. Next he may go to the base of the stairs. He’ll climb the first stair and give me “the look.” All this repeats over and over.
Considering God’s Boundaries and Will For Us
As I continued to repeatedly retrieve him from the edges of our boundaries it occurred to me: this is something I do with God. This is something humanity has always done. The safety of God’s will is a wide, wonderful place. Lots of our favorite people are here. There is plenty to do. Plenty of space to wander and explore.
But often we still behave as if it’s not enough.
We can be fooled into thinking that God’s will is a narrow and dull corridor. That it is specific to the point of being confusing or hard to find.
This isn’t true.
The Bible has lots to say about God’s will. Instead of a dark, confining closet, the Word shows us that God’s will and boundaries are more like a vast land preserve. Plenty of space, lots to see and do. Just stay inside the protected land–the boundary is there for our benefit. (John 6:40 is one of my favorite examples of what the Bible specifically says about God’s will. Here is a list of verses pertaining to God’s will.)
Kind of like…Go anywhere on the blue carpet.
But how often do we (do I) immediately head for the black line separating blue from gray and look back at God with a gleam in my eye. Surely this is okay. Surely putting my toes across the line is okay. What about one step into the gray?
Loud is the lie that God’s boundaries are restrictive, stealing our freedom. The truth is, God’s boundaries give us real freedom. Freedom to live in intimacy with our Creator. Freedom to focus on what matters. Staying within God’s will means we have freedom from the bonds of sin and death. We are free to truly live. (More on the freedom God gives us here.)
God’s Grace When We Cross the Line
Let’s not forget about God’s goodness and grace toward us when we push the boundary or cross the line. (Here are more verses about asking God for help.)
For the LORD your God is gracious and compassionate, and will not turn His face away from you if you return to Him.
2 Chron 30:9b
How many times does God lovingly retrieve me? How many times does He remind me of the boundaries of His will? Even more, how much time has He spent holding my hand, helping me resist the temptation to cross the line?
Just as I continue to remind Gideon that he has plenty of space, God has reminded me over and over that His will is the right place. In the same way that I explain that our boundaries keep Gideon safe, God tells us the boundaries of His will are designed to keep us safe too.
Inevitably, Gideon crosses the line. He leaves the sanctuary and heads to the gray-carpeted lobby. Sometimes it’s only a step and a mischievous look. Sometimes it’s a full sprint through the lobby, headed straight for the open door to the parking lot. Or the stairs to the lower level.
I go after Him every time.
God does the same for us. When we cross the line, He is faithful to call us back. Even when we wander far, He is faithful to take our willing hand and lead us back inside His will.
Trusting God’s Boundaries
Really, it boils down to trust. Don’t you think? Gideon needs to learn to trust us to set boundaries for him. We need to trust God to set boundaries for us. Ideally someday Gideon will understand that Derek and I see a little farther, know a little more, and want him to thrive.
As we mature in faith we will grow in our trust for God. Trusting that He sees farther, knows more, and sets boundaries for our good. He wants us to thrive.
Friends, learning to stay close to God and trust Him to set our boundaries takes discipline. And practice. It may never be a perfect science. But God will always be faithful to help us resist the temptation to cross the line. Or help us back once we’ve crossed.
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Take A Road Trip From Minot to Rapid City | Minot Monday
Today’s Minot Monday post–all about a road trip from Minot to Rapid City–is made possible through a partnership with BeLOCAL Minot. BeLOCAL is a guide to living like a local and loving our town. For more getaway ideas see here.
For this edition of Minot Monday we are headed on a road trip! If you live in Minot you simply must put a trip to Rapid City and the Black Hills on your to-see list.
Last week I needed to go down to Rapid City to do some maintenance on our rental property. I thought it would be fun to give you some inside tips for if/when you decide to take a road trip from Minot to Rapid City. Because, let’s be honest. If you are living in Minot you are in the perfect location to explore the Black Hills region over a long weekend. The drive down is a reasonably short. The scenery is beautiful. There are so many things to do you’ll leave wanting to come back. And you’ll head back to Minot refreshed and exhilarated.
If you have recently relocated to North Dakota, take advantage of your new location. Explore what this region of the country has to offer. Previously when we lived in Minot, coming down to the Black Hills was our favorite quick trip. I’m convinced it can be your favorite trip too!
Now–let’s all keep in mind that I am not advising anyone to hop in their cars and take a vacation at this moment. Please use common sense, adhere to the latest CDC guidelines, practice social distancing and most importantly, do what you think is right for you and your family. These ideas can be kept for the future.
Where is Rapid City?
Rapid City and the Black Hills are in western South Dakota. From Minot its about a 6.5 hour drive. Yes, to an outsider that might seem like a long drive. But in North Dakota it’s not too far at all. I typically allow 7 hours for driving and a meal and gas stop.
Tips for a Road Trip From Minot to Rapid City
When we road trip from Minot to Rapid City, we prefer this route. Usually we stop at the Powderhorn Restaurant in Lemmon, SD. It’s quirky, basically half way and the food is always good.
If you’ve taken shorter drives in North Dakota, you know that there aren’t many amenities outside of towns. On a longer road trip like this be sure to fuel up before leaving Minot. Then take advantage of gas stations (and food/toilets) along the way. Proper stops are few and far between.
Cell service and data become spotty on the drive. Take a back up map or copy screen shots of your route, just in case signal drops off.
Things to See in Rapid City and The Black Hills
If I listed all the things to do and see in this region, this post could go on forever. Instead I’ll give you some links from the official visitor guides and a list of my favorite things. This is a family friendly area and there are tons of things for all travelers to do.
Hiking
No trip would be complete without taking in the Black Hills via hiking. Trails are everywhere and range from easy (I just took a great hike with a three year old) to strenuous multi-day journeys. Below are a few of my favorite places to hike. Here are 10 more great hikes. And here is an abundance of information on Black Hills trails.
Walks In Town
Attractions in Rapid City
Below are my favorite places to pop into in town. Here is a full list of Rapid City attractions.
Attractions in the Hills
Below are a few of my favorites. Here is a link to all Black Hills attractions.
- Mount Rushmore (the museum is fascinating–and if you go, you better get a scoop of Jefferson Vanilla. If you don’t you’ll be missing out your whole life.)
- Custer Wildlife Loop (Take carrots to give the resident mules)
- Jewel Cave
- Bear Country
My Favorite Things to Eat in Rapid City and the Black Hills
Good food is everywhere. One thing I love about this region is that there is so much to do, your trip won’t be centered around food. But you’ve gotta eat sometime, so you might as well make it good. Here’s a full list of Rapid City eats and Black Hills eats.
In Rapid City
- Ron’s Cafe (the best breakfast in town)
- Tally’s Silver Spoon (a tourist must)
- Harriet and Oak (coffee and coffee shop food)
- Lintz Bros Pizza (Ok, it’s technically in Hermosa, SD)
- Jambonz Deux
- Silver Linings Creamery
In and Around the Black Hills
- Prairie Berry Winery (my favorite lunch spot)
- Powder House
- Leon’s (best ice cream in Spearfish)
- Black Hills Burger and Bun
Enjoy Your Road Trip From Minot to Rapid City
Like I said, if you find yourself living in Minot take advantage of your proximity to this scenic and historic region. If you are living in Minot for only a short time, you may never get a chance to explore this region with such ease. For other road trips remember to check out these ideas from BeLOCAL. Great getaways within an easy drive are just another reason to love life in Minot.
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The Best Summer Ever | Free 90 Day Chronological Bible Reading Plan
Today I’m excited to bring you a free 90 day chronological Bible reading plan. I’ll be kicking off my reading on June 1 and I hope you join me. The free download is at the bottom of this post, or in the Resource Library. I’ve written some things I have learned through doing a 90 day reading plan…and how it has added to my testimony.
Four years ago I accepted a challenge from a friend to embark on a 90 Bible reading adventure. At the time, I was in the fledgling stages of claiming full victory over a lifelong battle with anxiety and depression. I’d recently walked through the darkest days of my life. A time in which my thoughts, emotions and even spirituality were jumbled and flipped.
During those long months of what I can now clearly see was a mental health crisis it took all of my strength and cognition to hang on to the Truth. God is real. Jesus is my Savior. God is a deliverer, not my enemy. If you have grappled with depression and anxiety, you know things can seem very mixed up. The temptation to believe lies is more real than you may ever have imagined.
I Thought The Timing Was All Wrong.
Anyway, in the early summer of 2016 I had completed counseling which took me to the root causes of much of my anxiety and depression. I was healing, but the wounds were still a little raw.
Mentally, I was exhausted from learning to live out new healthy patterns of thought. Emotionally, I was drained because Derek and I were moving and there were many uncertainties. He had already left to train for his next job, I was alone–finalizing the sale of our house and packing. Physically, I was just dog-tired.
When the challenge came to join in a 90 day read through of the Bible I had several initial thoughts. I’m too tired for that. The timing isn’t right to take this on. I struggle with a year-long Bible reading plan–how could I do it in three months? I’ll try again some other time.
But the challenge nagged at me. Deep in my heart I could hear God telling me this was exactly the right time. I could feel the Holy Spirit assuring me that this would not be a burden, that His Word would be a salve to my wounds. This would propel me forward if I would let it.
Why I Love The 90 Day Chronological Bible Reading Plan
So, with much hesitation I started.
Friends, it really did change me. It did all those things my heart could hear, and so much more.
Because I chose to read in chronological order, I saw Scripture as a cohesive, narritive–from beginning to end. (Well–the end of the book. Revelation isn’t really “the end,” is it?)
Because the time frame was short, I gained an overall understanding of the “Bigger Story” told in the Bible. By reading in 90 days, I was able to see how the entirety of Scripture works together.
Because it was a fairly short commitment, I was more inclined to stay on top of it.
I’ve read the Bible in 90 days several times now. Every time is sweet and always worth the effort and challenge.
How Did I Really Read the Bible in 90 Days?
If you are hesitant, like I was–let me encourage you. This is how it looked for me.
First of all, it took me about 100 days instead of 90. Extend yourself grace. Don’t get discouraged.
Second, I’ve used a variety of techniques. I’ve done a complete audio “read-through.” I’ve done a combination of reading and listening. And I’ve done only reading. I prefer a combination of the two. For me, listening is best. I focus better and have better recall.
Third, I don’t always do all the reading at once. Depending on the day I may have 3-4 short reading sessions to tackle the day’s text–instead of one long session.
It This Really Doable?
Yes. It seems more implausible than it really is. Once you start you’ll see that this is a doable goal.
Audio Bibles are a great way to get the reading in, even if you aren’t able to sit and read. (There are lots of good options at BibleGateway)
I’m a terribly slow reader. To tackle the 90 day chronological Bible reading plan I need to split the texts up if I’m reading. Cumulatively it takes me 45 minutes to 1 hour to complete. (Also because I lose my train of thought when I read.) If I listen, it takes about 20-30 minutes. I’ll typically listen to the texts multiple times in one day. It’s more doable than you think.
All in all, it’s a small time commitment. Carve out the time for something this vital. Your heart will change. Your understanding of who God really is will be enhanced.
This is Your Right Time
Maybe you’re like me. Hesitant. Sure there will be a better time. Whatever hard times you’ve seen lately–maybe this is your right time. Your perfect moment to say “Yes” to something that truly matters, truly heals and brings true clarity and knowledge.
Just try.
I can’t promise you a list of benefits. But I can tell you from experience: time spent challenging myself to know God more deeply has never been wasted. Every time I push into to discover more about God’s character–I come out with joy more tangible, feet more planted and assured, fear a little farther away. Maybe this is your perfect moment to say “Yes.”
Here’s the Plan
It’s May 20. I’m kicking off my next “90 day chronological Bible reading plan” challenge on June 1. That gives you ten days to pray, prepare your heart and decide if you’d like to commit. I’d love to have you reading alongside me. To make it easier, I’ve got a downloadable Chronological 90 Day Bible Reading Plan–FREE, just for you.
There are lots of plans floating around. But this is the one I’ll be using…and it’s pretty. And doesn’t it feel better to take on a challenge with something pretty taped to the fridge? You can get the plan below. Or in the Resource Library.
I’ll be talking about the daily reads (or listens) on Instagram and in Instagram stories–I’d love to have you join me! I hope to be reading alongside you on June 1!
